Let’s be honest… As women, we can very readily be dominated by thoughts and expectations that essentially lead us away from ourselves. We can be caught in the ‘what’s next to do’ in the day – from the preparatory steps involved in our morning routine, to a burgeoning to-do list that may leave us feeling perpetually pushed to accomplish it all…
Add to this the influences and images that project onto us from nearly every angle – how we should look (Is my tummy flat enough? Do my eyebrows hit the current fashion-defined mark?), the super-woman image of ‘doing it all’ and the rest – and we well may ask, “Where am ‘I’ in all of this?”
Being truly present with ourselves may seem an outlying consideration – outside of our scope of reference, and/or something only relegated to those rare quiet moments of ‘me time’ we may just manage to sneak in on occasion. Yet, what if it is something that is actually exceedingly simple, and in fostering our connection to it, something that can support us in the whole cycle of our day and all that we may encounter within it? Can we go there?
What if you gave yourself a moment – right now – to not just get through reading this article (so that you can then get to the next thing), but to actually feel your own body… its presence in your chair (or wherever you are placed), your hands at your computer/device, the delicateness of your own fingers…?
What if you gave yourself this moment to feel the movement in your own breath, the rise and fall of your chest and abdominal muscles, the spaciousness in your lungs… What if, you said ‘yes’ to being with you – body and being as one – right here, and right now?
Is it possible, to connect with the ‘you’ that is always here – in the centre of it all, the myriad influences in your day, and all that is there to be done? To stop, feel and deeply appreciate the ‘you’ and the beauty of the woman you are, that is always here?
Essentially, this is all that yoga – meaning union – is about… the union of body and being, in which presence is key… It’s actually simple, yet in giving considerable power away to that which is outside of ourselves – that which is yet to be done, that which we feel we need to live up to, and that which we drive ourselves to be, we may have lost a sense of this union, and live caught in things that may not truly reflect the true nature of who we are.
In losing our natural sense of presence – body and being united – we thus diminish our ability to move and go into the activity of our day with all of us in sync and intact. The quality of the beautiful, wise and delicate beings we actually are is lessened, for without being united within, is it not a fragmented self that then goes to the next task, or meets the next encounter of our day? We write the email, we groom ourselves, brush our child’s hair, we commute to work, do the shopping, wash our dishes, talk with our colleague… but do we bring all of us to this, or is a part of us consumed by the what’s next, or other things that take us away from ourselves?
The simplicity of the moment to feel the delicateness of our own hands and the movement in our breath is indeed something that can stay with us. Our ability to bring all of us through attentiveness to our bodies when we shower, brush our child’s hair or talk with our colleague is something we can indeed harness. And this is where the modality of Esoteric Yoga can support us immensely, in its oh-so-simple movements and the space offered to return to our bodies – here and now – once again.
In this world that has not fostered such connection, we are presented with the opportunity to essentially re-educate ourselves to move and be in the yoga (union) of body and being as one. We are offered the space to breathe our own breath, amidst the spin of the world that surrounds us, and build our relationship with our own presence once more. For the most of us, we held this innately as young children. It’s not hard to return to, it simply takes a bit of unraveling of that which we’ve taken on…
Though we will never be perfect in being absolutely ‘in sync’ at all times, we can indeed bring a re-education to our body and being that can change things significantly. We can bring this awareness of our own bodies to our everyday, and with great simplicity return to a sense of being truly present and connected that holds us.
For in this – the woman or man in presence and in union with all that we are (oh so simple) – we are empowered to move and interact in this world in a way that offers something else than the influences which largely dominate. By our own way and movements, we can bring ourselves out of the fragmentation and deepen our relationship with the beautiful and delicate being that we are, our wisdom and our Grace…
In the beauty of our own Presence we are essentially whole.
Where else would we want to be?
Esoteric Yoga Stillness Program for Women Presenter
Like to hear more? You may like to explore our recent Podcast on the subject of Presence.